Five blissful months later, we’re catching up with Grammy Award-winning Christian artist Rebecca St. James
, now officially known as Mrs. Fink to the world.
It’s been an exciting year for the gifted songwriter, who released a new album in April, starred in several indie films like “Suing the Devil,” “The Frontier Boys,” and “To the Wall,” and wed the man of her dreams – Jacob Fink – in April, fulfilling her decades long promise of abstinence until marriage.
The acclaimed singer, also a bestselling author, now has a new book, titled What Is He Thinking?? What Guys Want Us to Know About Dating, Love, and Marriage, ready to hit stores Sept. 26.
Declared as “a must-read for every girl who is wondering where all the good guys have gone” by radio host Sean Hannity, the book explores one of the most difficult subjects every woman has a hard time understanding – men.
Drawing on the frank conversations she’s conducted with 16 single guys and 11 happily married men, St. James honestly and thought-provokingly tackles the too often confusing desires of the opposite sex and seeks to unpack what real Christian men are looking for in a woman, detailing everything from the top 10 turnoffs for guys to the do’s and don’ts of relationships.
Her book is being heralded as the “ultimate field guide to men,” and hopes to answer the longing question in many singles’ hearts: “Is it still possible to find a mate today and live happily ever after?”
In the following exclusive interview with The Christian Post, St. James talks about her new marriage, dives deeper into her book, and leaves readers with some tidbits of wisdom she’s learned along the way in her own journey with God and man.
CP: Before we dive into the new book, I wanted to ask you about your marriage. Now that you’re finally married, is it everything you thought it’d be and more? Any surprises?
St. James: Yes, even more than what I thought. As far as surprises, I’ve been surprised by the healing power of love. I’ve just noticed in ministry I felt more empowered by the encouragement of his love. Just having a soulmate that cares about every part of my life and is so with me... it’s just been the biggest gift from God ever in my life. And the connection and how the love deepens with the commitment of marriage, I think that’s been surprising to me. You know it’s going to take your love deeper but how much deeper it went with the engagement and oh my goodness with marriage, it’s like there’s just this sense of joy and security and massively deepened love in knowing we’re going to do the rest of our lives together. And we’re just both so committed to being all in and in it for life. It’s just beautiful the way marriage is planned.
CP: Now, on to your new book What Is He Thinking?? What was your goal in writing this book? Was it more of a journal for you?